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Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2
Does your wife know about your need? If so, can she feel betrayed? When I start talking about multiples and some of the stuff they did my wife would get put off and told me to talk about it to my therapist, not wanting to hear a word of it. Her image of me since we first got together is shattered she says- disappointingly. She won't hear of it about what I'm going through inside. I told her I was like this longer then when we met, like 30 years longer.
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Yes, my wife does know, to a superficial extent. (It's a long story...) Also, yes, I think that those of us who have struggled with these sorts of problems all of our lives imagine that we're doing loved ones a favor by hiding our true selves. But, the truth will out one way or another. And when it does come out, it seems like, what we saw as a sacrifice, often feels like a betrayal to loved ones. I don't have the impression this is the case with my wife. I don't think she feels betrayed. She's just very uncomfortable with this sort of thing. She doesn't know how to deal with it & doesn't want anything to do with it. Neither do I, for that matter. I just don't have any choice...
