wow you guys must have such a strong bond, that is so awesome! i just found out that my boyfriend, who i love dearly, is being transferred to NY (we live in LA now) and i am getting my phd so i wont be able to move for atleast 3 yrs and he is finishing his so he is stuck there for atleast 3. i ahve been devastated but am tryin to be brave, any suggestions for making it work? he has been a rock but i still get all panicky thinking about "it"