You are in a tough spot. No doubt about it! I wish that there were some simple advice that I could give, and that your life would immediately begin to improve. Unfortunately, it just isn't that simple.

To make things more difficult: the fact is that you are in the middle. In my humble opinion, a child (regardless of age) should never be plced in the middle of parents feeling disgruntled. You have your own relationships with each of them, which should never be compromised, especially due to their love lives. It is very sad, and I just don't know HOW to fix the problem.

If/when your parents try to relieve their stress, by talking with you about the other, please tell them that you cannot get involved in that way. You love the other, and it is unfair for one to expect you to take sides against the other...regardless of age.. you still have that same relationship.

Very gentle hugs and best wishes to you & your family. I hope that things get worked through very soon. You ALL need some relief from this distress.