> Regarding the stereotypes brought up earlier, I've heard that grown females/women with Asperger's are a lot more likely to be diagnosed as Borderline PD than as autistic, probably due to the usually-present instability of their social relationships.

Yes. I was previously diagnosed with this.. Clinician's felt I could benefit from doing DBT skills group training and I needed a dx of borderline to qualify for the program.

I found the other people in the program to be more... Fear of being alone... I never got that and it hurt me a lot that people thought I had that... That people would accuse me of 'attention seeking' for... Self stimming / harming sorts of things...

I... Don't really believe in diagnoses... Just... Different flavors of distress... Or something like that.

It did help to meet other people who understood what it was like to feel such distress / pain... I think mine was largely due to sensory issues... COmpression clothing and working hard at the gym etc has made a world of difference for me...