We used to scarifies, to victimization and the notion that there is something wrong with us and that is why we should love others and hate ourselves. Many of those ideas comes from religion or just generation to generation wrong actions towards yourself. It all starts with you. Simple logic - you can't love others if you don't love yourself. You can love them because you love them, but would that be nice to have enough to give them more? If you don't have enough love for yourself, you will suffer, because the other part of equation is not fulfilled - loving yourself. Love should be going in and out, like oxygen.So in order to love yourself and give love, you need to love yourself. You can't just give give and give and get nothing in return. That is why we all tired, sad, depressed and hate ourselves or others. It all starts with us. Give yourself love, so you can give love to others. At the same time. No choosing between one or the other.And there is nothing egotistical about that or wrong. Just think - if you have enough (of anything) then you can share! But if you stretch yourself tin - then you suffer. The solution - just to start - always remember - THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. You always did the best you could with what you had and what you knew. Don't be too hard on yourself. Repeat to yourself " I am doing the best I can, and it is enough." Because you are! It is time to acknowledge that!