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Originally Posted by hankster
I identified a lot with the original post. I was often complaining that something was wrong at work or in my therapy, and that i had a better way, and that it was very important we do things my way. I now believe this behavior was not in my best interest, but it was the best i could do at the time. Nevertheless, i was acting out a childhood pattern of being overly responsible, as my parents neglected me, so i had to take care of myself. I often panicked. I detected the same note of panic in the original post.
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I hear it was not your intention.
However, since we don't have the tone of voice, body language... to understand the underlying good intentions on a message board, any message with negative undertones is magnified.
Also, what worked for you may not work for the person.
So, we cannot know if our advice are actually, IRL, in OP's best interests (it's the gist of any cyber relationship).
In these circumstances, we have to be very careful about the way our advice are worded.
I include myself in the pronoun "we".