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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I personally didn't find your post judgmental or patronizing.
From what little I do know, DBT isn't about invalidating emotions. It's about trying to perceive "the grey" instead of black and white....use the "wise mind" instead of reacting purely off of logic or emtions. So my understanding is that DBT is about balance. You meet your needs by acknowledging both the emotions and logic before simply reacting to a situation. (Please correct me if I'm wrong!!!).
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Thanks!

and, i wish! But dbt hadnt been invented yet, so no, i just went blindly along.
Like my post last night - i wrote it in the middle of the night for me. I expected all of pc to recognize that and to cut me slack. I used to write emails at work in the middle of the night - while i was still at work - and i expected my bosses to note the time and so not get excited when i came in late the next morning. I thought it would be gauche or declasse to point out the obvious. Eventually, we talked about it and bosses told me they assumed i was fixing the email time, that it wasnt representative of when i was actually at the office. So i was like doubly screwed.
Yeah, i cant tell how my posts come across to people. I just try to be as honest and direct as possible, but not "painfully honest". I do try to be supportive. Here i did say it had been a while since i had taken dbt - perhaps i should have made it more clear that i didnt remember all the lingo - i felt i had implied it.