when my oldest boy was in preschool he was very verbal and smart but behind in fine motor skills like scissors and writing and was getting frustrated so the public school evaluated him and was going to send an OT to his preschool and when they visited for the day they said the preschools expectations were equivalent with public school 1st grade... So he went to the public school preschool. Just saying expecting 4and 5 year olds boys to behave like 6orb7 year olds or girls is unrealistic. Were there anyof the places with openings have lots of boys in the class.. Do circle time and then lots of hands on stuff? If I visited a preschool and saw a coloring page or worksheet, I would keep looking.