Well, everything is divided equally in my house--it always has been. That said, when I was in my deep dark place, I didn't do anything and my husband had to pick up the slack. I didn't feel bad because I didn't feel anything. Right now, things are still pretty bad, but I do have small spurts of energy during which time I try to take care of as much as I can.

I find a list to be of tremendous help. There is something satisfying about crossing stuff off a list Don't make it too ambitious though, as that can just lead to disappointment.

Being organized is CRUCIAL. Box up the knick knacks temporarily and have clean surfaces. My own rule is that if something comes into the house, then something has to go out. Put stuff where it belongs when you're done with it.

Get cleaning stuff that works well and is simple to use. For example Swiffer dusters, and disinfectant wipes can save the day in about ten minutes flat.

Oven cleaner (fume free) works remarkably well but be warned, you need a decent chunk of time. The instructions are right on the can. Just spray, let it work and clean it off (use a bucket of water and a sponge and change out the water frequently). You will need rubber gloves.

Some people set a timer...

Don't forget the music!