My girlfriend (from about a year now) has recently told me she has Gender Dysphoria (for grammatical issues, I'll refer to her as a "she" for the time being). She believes she is a man, she dresses as one (doesn't use "girly" clothing), she likes being addressed as a man, likes men's cologne, has tastes and hobbies like that of a man and such. Regarding that, she indeed fulfills the criteria for GD diagnosis (though it hasn't been diagnosed by a specialist, just self-diagnosed).

However, in some aspects, she is still femenine. She wants to give birth to children, she likes cute girly things (though not clothing, or princess-like accessories, but she does like the rest), and has quite some femenine behaviour sometimes that maybe she doesn't even notice.

Which puzzles me the most, and doesn't seem to be an usual occurrence in GD, is that she claims she is an homosexual man trapped in a woman's body. Being that she definitely likes men (as I can vouch for). This has me quite puzzled, trying to figure out whether is she suffering of GD or is just confused. (I am trying to think of all the possibilities, not trying to belittle this problem).

The problem lies in that I don't really give much importance to what gender she believes she is, and I want to accept her as she is. BUT I am definitely heterosexual. I am not attracted at all to male bodies. So of course, if she (in the future) decides to undergo a sex-change surgery, she really wants me to stay with her and keep loving her. And I wish I could, but I don't know whether I'll be able. If I am not attracted to male bodies, and stop being attracted to her because of the surgery... I don't think we can (or should) be together then, for our own good.

So that's it... I don't know what can we both do with this, and I'd be thankful for any advice we could get.

We have to think of all the pro's and con's, and all the things that can (and can not) be done. All the problems that could arise and the way to deal with them, ad we both know little, next to nothing, about this.

Thank you.