I didn't want to hijack another thread but this topic has been on my mind a lot recently as I progress through my own therapy.

My spouse doesn't like that I go to therapy - he's somewhat supportive because I need it but would prefer I just figure it out on my own, and I can "talk to him". He doesn't trust T's (bad experience when he was a child) and is always questioning when she's going to tell me to leave him. Which she never would.

I have noticed that my spouse is very his way is ALWAYS right no matter how wrong he is & I'm too dumb to know the difference. I feel this is his low self-esteem and non-existent confidence in himself (unless it’s his job). The more I progress throughout the process and see myself changing and see things around me differently - especially how others treatment of me, positive or negative, and how I internalize/process it this has bothered me more and more. The phrases he sometimes uses, how I am talked down to a lot, etc. He’s a good man and there is a lot in his past that causes him to be this way, I know about it and I understand it – but it really REALLY is starting to bother me – I would be tempted to say hurt me more that he doesn’t see me in a better/smarter light.

Do marriages seem to suffer when one spouse begins to change in therapy and the other wants nothing to do with it? I really don’t want to go down that road but I also really don’t like feeling hurt and “smaller” than him, especially since I used to feel I had to be that way towards men because of my past but now I’m realizing otherwise and should I just hope with all my might that he will love the new me and learn to treat me differently?