I wish you could read all the emails I wrote here about not being able to talk to T about my feelings for her. I even feared people here would get tired of my complaints and questions, but nobody did. It took almost 2 yrs to get up the nerve to tell T about my feelings. I finally got the courage by going into it at an angle. I asked T how she treated dependency problems and T said all the encouraging things I needed to know. I didn't admit I had any, you know.
It's still not easy, but we're at least into the topic. The risky words get easier with practice. And be patient with yourself and with your inner child.