I'm hoping that will happen - T is mainly a couples/marriage/family therapist and she assures me that we will do what we can to help him via me learn how to treat me and better the relationship. It's reassuring to hear that the spouse can grow with us while in the process as well. I'm not looking foward to the growing pains but I know going through my individual ones that good things await on the other side of them - thanks for your thoughts -JD