Maybe I was spoiled by my last T! She was her own secretary as well, not part of a practice, and I had no problem with that. I just texted her and she responded.

I'm not a difficult client. I don't contact my T between sessions (and in the rare instances I do it's just material to be discussed in-session, not something I expect to have addressed on the spot). My time is flexible so if T asked me to go to a different office location or move my slot I always said "yes" whenever I could.

I do find it irritating to wait for days to initiate even a short phone call…but if this is actually typical I think I can approach her open-mindedly. I don't, after all, generally require a fast response. It looks like I'm going in with unreasonable expectations.