After I lost my husband I lost all empathy towards people. I actually get angry and resentful. Oh, I lost my puppy, or kitty, my grandparents who lived old full lives died. Oh I knew he had cancer or some health problems so I had the chance to say goodbye! Oh, my boyfriend is mean to me.. - Seems like most of everyone's problems, they can fix them, just change your life. I don't know if people just like the attention, love being the victims, or just never really experienced real pain or hurt, so every little thing is such a huge deal to them. I had no choice, no chance to say goodbye, no questions answered. Nothing. So now having to deal with people and them saying they understand how I feel or what I am going through. NO you don't. Or they try to relate and say, well I am going through a divorce so I know what you are going through. YOU have a choice to change your crappy life! That was YOUR choice, your actions. You can't even compare, it is a complete insult.