Welcome to Psych Central (PC). Sorry to hear how you are so concerned about your anxiety issues. There are many people here at PC that are compassionate and caring.

People here at PC share what they are going through together, but if precise diagnosis (dx) is what you are looking for, only a psych doc or psychiatrist can really do that with any precision. Plus they could prescribe meds that will diminish symptoms.

People go through identity crises often and meeting someone of the same gender as you that feels really good can be confusing. Is it just friendship or is there sexual attraction there.

Having a caring compassionate person can easily arouse feelings of passion when someone may have been deprived of comfort and compassion growing up. A therapist that specializes in women to women relationships or friendships could help.

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