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Originally Posted by Rhapsody
I have a second thought to my first thread made about My Sexless Marriage ...... now I am thinking:
What is a spouse to do when the other one no longer wants to have sex and you are still wanting and desiring to express your self in a sensual way, to experience the pleasure that comes from being with another?
Are we sit quite and suffer in silence?
Are we to wait until the other is ready?
Are we allowed to find another to help us?
What are you we allowed to do when the other part of US fails on their part?
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Hello Rhapsody: From my perspective, the remedy for this is open communication between the 2 members of the marriage. If this is difficult (which it often is) then perhaps some couples counseling could help, if both are willing to participate. If it is a situation where one spouse is simply no longer interested in intimacy, & is also unwilling to open the lines of communication, then it seems to me, the partner who still yearns for sexual intimacy has to make a decision as to whether or not to stay or go.
One cannot be expected to simply suffer in silence. We are not saints.
Certainly one can wait for a while. But when does the waiting end? What if there is no end to the waiting? At some point decisions must be made... preferably not in haste...
If by "finding another to help us" you mean gaining sexual gratification outside of the marriage, my thinking would be that, while this may be one option, it is not a helpful one. Turning to someone outside of a marriage for intimacy complicates everything & draws yet another person into the scenario, along with their emotional baggage.
My best wishes to you both...
