I have started reading How to Win Friends and Influence People. I've had the book for years - over a decade - but like Emotional Intelligence, I haven't been able to get through it.

The first chapter states, that ninety-nine times out of a hundred, people don't criticize themselves for anything no matter how wrong it may be. They rationalize, explain, use fallacious reasoning to justify their antisocial acts even to themselves, maintaining that they have been wrongfully accused. They don't blame themselves for anything, and they don't take responsibility for their actions.

Al Capone, notorious public enemy said, "I have spent the best years of my life giving people the lighter pleasures helping them have a good time, and all I get is abuse and the existence of a hunted man."
(I don't know why you're posting this in my thread. You're describing me perfectly, but you aren't talking about me...)

The first principle of the book is: "Don't criticize, condemn, or complain."
Not because it's "not nice."
Because it is a complete and utter waste of time.