I know my T calling me should be no big deal but it is staying in the back of my mind and is making me so uncomfortable .the situation is this . I was away at the beginning of this week on a scrapbooking retreat. I usually have T on Tuesday at 3 . it was 310 and my cell phone rings at first I did not recognize her voice. she said hi granite sorry to bother you but I wanted to know if this was the week you were going to be away, i forgot to write down the date. and when you didn't show up... I did finely realize who it was . she never calls me unless it is in response to me calling her and that is rare maybe like 4 times in 4 years. anyway I told her it was and she askes if I was away now and I said that I was . she said that she was sorry to interrupt my retreat and wanted to be sure I was ok.i told her that I was fine and that it was ok . she said that if everything was ok that she would see me on the 17th and to have a good time .I verified it would be on the 17thand said goodbye.

this is what is bothering me . if I had not shown up for a reason other then I was away and she had just forgotten . why was she calling me . I didn't think that T were suppose to do this . I thought if you didn't show up because you were upset at something or are unable to deal with something etc... the T was not suppose to chase after someone. I am a person who doesn't mind strict boundaries it can be tough at times but it feels safe . I hate expectations. I have never not showed up for T without calling or giving her notice . im not one for playing the chase after me thing. I don't know how to respond to it at all . it makes me uncomfortable if she might call me if I choose not to go to session etc.. if I ever did that it wouldn't be because I want her to call me or anything .it would mean I need the space . thoughts on t calling if you don't show up for T.