I think, I see what You explained to me. It is surely truthful, offering help to someone is always best only in form that fits what they would welcome/ see as help.
I like the idea that You point out - that there are some gestures that can be done truly for others.
The example with store showed me what would not be my goal, gladly. I seem to be unfit for this category.
Thank You for Your comment, although it has been some time already.

I was also wondering about one more thing. Let's say I am insecure about myself, my value, my worth, what if I would be doing help for others in such way, that by achieving it and by bringing a bit of sunshine into their lives I would confirm my worth, my existence. Is that a big mistake, when trying to offer someone help? I was wondering about my own... I dont know... or another scenario something like hidden narcisstic goal. or whatever, I dont know what to call it... lets say the person, to whom giving a helping hand is my intention, doesnt recognize my effort, does not seem to accept help, for what reasons I dont know... What if then by actually achieving the unrecognized act of helping this person poses for me... some sort of grandious feeling, to defeat or to overpower... I wonder but that wouldnt change the fact, that this person would be happy now, no?

I wonder, I know I am not doing my best to practice my attitude, but even if my feelings were monstrous manipulative bi**ches, the person would still be happy no?

I've read that if trying to offer someone help, You can come to a point, where the others don't want to, cannot, arent "capable" of accepting this help and that at this spot, You need to validate this person's autonomy and let him face their challenges as their own. Otherwise, doing anything, instead of that person, would lead to them not overcoming this obstacle anyhow.
But can I refuse to give up my intention...? I mean, I am not going to be pushy, I am not going to Make them, manipulate them into accepting the help. I am just going to preserve myself and my mind, my acts in a state that has the intention of helping this person, without any regard to whether it helps or not. Can I accept their being in "now and here"
, as not accepting of my help? Can I accept them as not being able to help themselves, Can I accept them without any demand for change? Just expressing my hope and wish for them to be happy and stay like that, simultaneously not harming the independence of their soul?

There is a saying I came to see on these forums
"We're all just walking each other home."

Is it in good order if I stay along the path at some point and wait alongside this person to make next step towards their home? Accepting the possiblity of them not making a further step? Just being there "stuck" with them ?