I would agree that therapy - and not a one night stand - might be a big help.

I've been sexually active for 7 years and only in the last couple of months, have I started enjoying it. I used to do the one night stand thing back when I used to get drunk, and I thought I was getting the sex for me, but it MESSED me up. I started having really jaded ideas of what sex was for....I won't go into details, but I worked through all those fears and ideas recently when I fell in love and wanted to have a healthy sex life with him. Before I could have sex with him, I had to look at my issues. Now that I've worked through those issues, sex is great.

For the last 7 years though, before this guy, I hated sex. The one night stands and the "friends with benefits" that I used for my own supposed gratification really messed me up. That's been my experience.......