Ah-h-h... okay... you're "older" folks... (I'm 66.) This explains a whole lot! Women reach their sexual peak in their 40's, I believe it is. Men reach theirs in their teens!

As men age the testosterone level declines & their interest in intimacy & sex starts to go down the drain. Depression tends to creep in to one degree or another (for some allot... for others just a bit...) Impotence also tends to develop to one degree or another. ( I'm sure there are exceptions to these things. There are exceptions to everything.) But I do believe this is more common than not. Older men just become like old bears who wander off by themselves never to be seen or heard from again, so to speak.

I suspect what you are experiencing, with your husband, is simply a part of the normal male aging process. To some extent, I believe this is inevitable. This does not, however, have to be the whole story. But, in order for it to be different, your husband is going to have to recognize there is a problem & be willing to work on it (at a time in his life when he'd probably just prefer to be left alone.) Medical investigation, couples counseling & simply a general opening of the lines of communication between the two of you would be important antidotes to your present situation. Here, again, however, your husband is going to have to be willing to participate. And if he is simply not willing to, this then becomes the point at which you are going to have to make a decision with regard to whether or not, and to what extent, you are willing to continue to live with things as they are.