I can totally relate to this. My husband and I are growing apart by the lightyear each month it seems. I have my interests and he has his. Things have gotten better in the aspect that there is no more tiger vs. bear melee between us in the house. I see that he will never give much of a care about anything (he has been dx with depression) and he sees that he can no longer get under my skin and that's that. So far as sex, he is on so many medications that he can't perform. He is much older than me, so it sucks. I'm barely in the 30's and sometimes I just crave sex with a man...a real man that can work some magic in the bedroom, you know? But with him, I know that's over. So, I just use toys to fill this need and I work out a lot and stay busy with hobbies. My husband? He just eats (and eats) and snores on the couch or in the bed the moment he gets home. He gets bigger and bigger and lazier and lazier and I just get more and more motivated. There is nothing you can do to force someone to have sex with you short of rape, which is illegal, so if you still care about the person and you can deal with it, or you have a plan to cope until you can get out, just bide your time and know that there is more to life than sex. Sometimes, I feel sorry for myself (esp. when I see a couple all hugged up in love and the man is my idea of sexy) but what does that do? No need for self pity and being jealous of others. Use your energy to better yourself, every ounce of it, since you have a surplus that you do not have to expend giving sex to a mate. It's not all bad, but it's not all good either. The hard part is finding your way through it all and dealing with the failed expectations and crushed dreams.