Sure.. Your spouse can do whatever he or she wants. It is up to the T what happens when the spouse contacts them. My BFF contacted my T a couple of months ago when she knew I was it a particularly bad spot. I kind of wish it was my h who had done it, meaning he was tuned in and he saw that I was in a bad place and my suicidal ideation was really bad. However, I think that is the only reason I would be ok with my h contacting my T. Other than that, I don't think my h and my T should be talking about me for any extended amount of time unless I was there.