My husband and I have given our doctors, therapist, pdocs, etc. permission to speak to us in situations that may be emergencies. The only time I've done so were really medication related issues about my husband. I contacted his pdoc when I was noticing serious symptoms that appeared to be med-related that he himself didn't have good insight about. Once, it ended up being a life-threatening lithium toxicity reaction that ended up with him on dialysis for kidney failure and in ICU for 8 days. The other was actually fairly recently when I (and other members of the family) were seeing really severe memory and cognitive problems. I started with our T because he is just easier to get hold of than my husband's pdoc. T agreed it sounded like a side effect of one of his meds and encouraged me to contact his pdoc with my observations (my husband was aware I was doing all of this by the way). His pdoc agreed and lowered the dosage of the offending me, and his symptoms improved as the result.