yes hon I know what you mean and I know you are hurting beyond belief right now. I am so sorry you are going thru all this. if you don't call her just please don't see him and fall for his stuff again. that is only more pain and you don't need that. I am sure she knows he is a cheater already. maybe she considers herself to have a live in babysitter with him so she can travel and do her job. maybe that is the reason she stays gone is his cheating. I am sure you are not the first one and won't be the last. hang in there sweetie