thanks for all your responses . it has helped put things in a bit more perspective. I did let her know I was not coming . if I had just not shown up I would never expect her to sit and wait around incase I needed her or anything like that at all. if I don't show up it is on me and I would always take responsibility for that and never want her to call or wait around for me and I would not get angry at her at all . it would be my doing . it is nice that she seems to care. I do see that I have overreacted to it .I just have problems knowing how to react to something like that . I don't know if I want to talk to her about it because I don't want her to feel bad for calling me when it is my issue