Pinksoil, A good topic! Yes I am learning also that peoples "details" are basically irrelevant to my life. That sounds harsh I feel as I type this, but this has been something that has been coming into my experience of life of late.

For instance, sitting in the car today with one of my daughters, and my daughter said "mum the guy in the car next to us, you should see the bling bling his wearing " LOL

OK this may sound irrelevant, but I caught myself about to look, then T came to mind and how she is never obviously interested in my "chat" and I asked myself how I was feeling in that moment, and realised that was much more important to *ME* then what some guy was wearing..

Not sure if I'm making myself clear here. But I have spent most of my life more taken with what is going on around me then what is going on within me.

T's lack of self disclouser but her interest in what I am feeling has shown me that my life and the way it is lived, is at its most importance when I am aware of my inner world. Anything on the outside is just detail.

Not sure if this makes sense? But I find now I am more interested in feelings, then life circumstances. Wouldnt have had a clue about that before recovery.

Geez, I think what I'm trying to say is, I too thought I had to know things, personal things to be close to someone. When just communicating feelings is such a more powerful deeper relationship.

Just scroll if I've rambled LOL, I mean I'm still sick LOL