Caring is doing. I know what is fair and unfair according to my own inner rules. I think it is unfair that Romani people are so badly treated in their country they have to come here and sit in every corner to beg for the smallest things. People tell me to be more selfish, but I give to them, I mean not much because they are quite many. I help friends and others, without asking anything back. People claim I'm the least selfish person they know.

Still do I feel pain when I see the pain of the beggar. No. Do I feel pain when my friends get hurt and I help them? No. Does it matter?

Some would say, Oh you don't help for the right reasons since you don't have much empathy, but is there a secret god judging why I do things and if I do them for the "right" reason? Why can't "Because I feel it is right" BE the right reason? Why does it have to be because I feel your pain? I have seen a lot of overly empathic people not do ANYTHING to help others. So, IMO, empathy might be quite useless.

I know... people might think of me as callous and bad, but I'm NOT. I just process things in a different way and that HAS TO BE OK.

It took me over 30 years to feel love towards my family. Does that mean I was bad before? No. It just meant my feelings are a bit different than others. I don't LOVE most people. Does it matter? To me it does not. I obviously care on some levels. Do I have to feel all fuzzy and warm inside? No. I can live without that. It's fine.