I spend a lot of time trying to convince my h and my T for that matter that my H (and everybody else) would be better off without me. H won't buy into it though... however, he comes from a family where divorce was never option and his parents stay together not because they enjoy being around each other (because they really don't) only because divorce is a yucky sin. I think he is in this for the long haul despite whether he is happy or not, and that makes me sad. Especially considering, I am not sure what I think.. and I might not even want to be married to a MAN anyways.