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Originally Posted by archipelago
I shouldn't have produced that quote since the whole thing is just leading things astray it seems. I was just trying to provide an example for the claim I made that finding a connection of love and therapy is part of the history of the field and so not unusual. I did not mean to suggest that Fromm's view is the correct view, because I am clearly saying there is no such thing as a correct view.
I guess once again all I can say is that I am not really understanding what is so problematic about love. I don't for instance see Fromm's sense of what love means is completely off the mark or too broad so therefore meaningless. This is a rather typical way to define love.
To say that people have problems because of lack of love seems only to underscore its importance in healing. The capacity for love is innate and part of survival. Someone who lacks this capacity has become derailed along the way of development, usually by other people.
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To those who say, no thats not it, its something else, i would challenge them to name what that something else is. I think Fromm's quote can be applied to someone who is codependent, who thinks they have the capacity to love but actually they lack respect / boundaries. That would describe me in my early adult years. You think you are intensely interested in another persons growth, but really its not in a good way. Wanting to fix someone else because you think they should change is not love.
But - how do you fix someone else who does want to change? The army way? A magic way?