It is not that we actually disagree. For instance, I have made the decision as a therapist that I will not follow the ethical rules about suicide in cases of a person's right to die and am willing to take the risks that that decision might entail, including losing my license. In other words, I would not "inflict care" because there are other ethical considerations above the codes that govern me.

But making a phone call is not inflicting care because it is not doing anything but putting words in the air. It seems that you think that words in the air equals forcing something onto someone when it isn't even close. Words are just words. They are not actions that take choice away or produce compliance. I'm not clear about why you think that saying something means that something will automatically be performed as a result.