I'm the OP and I had my spouse call my therapist and tell her that she wasn't doing her job. My therapist choose not to tell me until months later. At the time she was seeing us together and me alone.

Fast forward a few years and that therapy damaged us tremendously and we're on the rocks. He's seeing a therapist who his tween daughter also sees. We're in a terrible place and I feel the therapist isn't aware of my spouses mindset. He is angry with me and making threats. He always makes threats when angry or hurt but doesn't act on them. Still,the therapist is doing emdr with him and I'm sure he needs her help right now. I was annoyed but not angered by him phoning my therapist and would like to talk to his. I don't want any information about him at all. It'd be a one way exchange. My mate hides his tough times and I can guarantee his therapist doesn't know about his threatening and whatnot. Also I'm concerned for his daughter because she's witnessing this.