Mast - I didn't mean to sound like I was giving advice. I know you have a different kind of relationship with H, and I don't want to judge that either way. I just know that you forget/don't see/ignore the fact that you are just as important as anyone else.

So along with my fever, and the tons of white crap headed our way, I also get my mother. I know, I know, I can say no. Sometimes I just feel compassion towards her and I know how scared of storms she is. I just don't think any 85 yr old woman should have to be scared and alone when there are other options. If she was some stranger down the street I would do it. If she was MIL, I'd do it. She is an abusive old coot, but my kids are home for the weekend and I'm sick so there's a buffer.