When we are abused....it is a lot like being in the stages of grief. We have had a lot of loss when we were abused. A link is below that may help.

The 5 Stages of Loss and Grief | Psych Central

Also, here is an article on coping with abuse.

http://www.goodtherapy.org/therapy-for-abuse.html

You can take your time when you need it to process things. Maybe it would be best not to see this person you are speaking of. One time I didn't see my mom for a year as I needed to be away from her. She was my main abuser. Best wishes and I hope you get all of this sorted out.