I hold the unpopular, anarchical notion that therapist-client status does not void interpersonal relationships, power dynamics and or expectations of how human beings treat one another.
If I received such a message outside of a therapy setting I'd think, what kind of needy control freak is this? First I disrespect anyone with such certainty How Life Works, How Growth Works, How Therapy Works. She seems far too swept away with her own mystical powers. Second I think her extremely self-important to be convinced that loving HER creates some sort of enchanted effect. Third, it seems she's dictating some sort of script, where she's writing lines for both herself and recipient.
OK, my therapy was harmful, and I never was in love. However, I was so mesmerized I failed to question the therapists' authority, methods conjectures and interpretations. In retrospect I utterly regret the damage in giving myself to people who didn't deserve it.
I'm skeptical of therapy that implants and demands some sort of delusion.
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Originally Posted by musinglizzy
Here is exactly what she said about that:
Therapy cannot work without love. How are you going to let yourself be that vulnerable without it? It's not a love that would translate into a relationship beyond the therapy one, but if it isn't there, it's a lost cause. Most people find that they fall a little bit in love with their therapists at some time during the work, but that as they begin to heal and put themselves back together again, that feeling shifts toward affection and connection. It's magical and lovely.
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