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Old Feb 14, 2015, 05:22 PM
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Originally Posted by JustShakey View Post
I think that the ability of a therapist to follow a client's lead in T, and to give them what they need - whether that be empathy or indifference, is an act of loving kindness in itself. And it is not a very easy thing to do. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
This is a great point. The T has to exert lots of self discipline to respond to client guidance.

Personally I think of love as emotional investment in someone else's positive life outcomes. I love (even just a little) people who are not relationally close and I have little contact with, but who matter to me as people. It's likely that Ts love/cherish most of their clients, just as most clients attach/need their Ts. What determines the relationship? IMO it's almost a forgone conclusion from therapeutic process.

It's harder in English to discuss love as a concept because other languages have more words for affection, attachment, desire, etc.
Thanks for this!
Gavinandnikki, JustShakey