Thank y'all for the replies.

I fell in love with my therapist. I lusted after her. Heterosexual all my life, married 25+ years. It blew me away. Seeing her 3-4/week made her the center of my adult emotional life. In the long run, and in retrospect, with a lot of soul searching, I wish I had not met her.
Many thousands of $ and time and I still have the problems that I went to her for. Certainly, I now know why I have these problems, but no real improvement.
I'm thinking about starting therapy again- I am now an informed consumer.