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Originally Posted by healed84
I can't sleep tonight..
Last week I had this revelation.. no one in my life who loves me has ever stood up for me. I think that is why I am in overdrive now, and I can't keep my damn mouth shout when I should IRL. I talked about it a bit in T last week, but it is still haunting me. When you love someone you stick up for them, when they have been wronged. Heck, you may even need to stick up for them when they are being a wee bit irrational. Just wish, somebody stuck up for me we I was abused, or even saw the signs. Blah!
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I don't recognise that description of love. I can't imagine any of the people who love me standing up for me or defending me. (Of course I have never been abused so I suppose I haven't needed it.) But if I mention, for instance, some work situation where I feel badly treated to H, he'll immediately and automatically defend the other person's position. It's just his way, and when I am idiotic enough to ask him not to do it, that's what he'll say: "You know that's just my way, it's what I am like." So there is no malice there - I simply have to think about what I tell him so I don't put myself in that situation.
On the other hand, I do have friends who will take my side. I could name various people on this forum, for instance. So there doesn't have to be love involved, friendship can be sufficient.