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Originally Posted by lolagrace
That said, if you think this particular therapist is trying to draw you back into therapy because of an unhealthy countertransference issue, then that would be a good reason not to return. On the other hand, if this therapist in simply trying to encourage you to continue your therapy work because she hates to see you put yourself aside for monetary reasons, that may not be an unhealthy thing at all. Hard to know without all the details.
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And that's almost impossible to know with any therapist. Unless you're a great therapist yourself and can analyze the therapist's unstated motives for wanting you as a client.
At any point in therapy, the therapist may or may not be motivated by what's best for the client. I guess that's why we have rules about ethics, and that's why therapists get licensed, partly as a way to protect the client and give them some sort of guarantee that the therapist knows what he's doing and is not going to abuse their power (and that if they do, they'll be punished).
As far as common sense, I can only rely on my own intuition if the therapist says or does something outrageously wrong or nonsensical, like wanting to have sex with you, or say you require at least 1000 sessions of therapy (only after you've spoken for five minutes in the first session.) Otherwise, very hard to know.
In a strange way, it was nice if therapy was like McDonald's Big Mac. Everybody knows what it should contain, you seen the picture, you know the ingredients. If it tastes weird, you send it back. If the cheese is missing, you get another. Ready in two minutes, eaten in one, cheap and bad for your health, that's the American way.
