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Old Feb 15, 2015, 06:16 AM
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Originally Posted by Mastodon View Post
I don't recognise that description of love. I can't imagine any of the people who love me standing up for me or defending me. (Of course I have never been abused so I suppose I haven't needed it.) But if I mention, for instance, some work situation where I feel badly treated to H, he'll immediately and automatically defend the other person's position. It's just his way, and when I am idiotic enough to ask him not to do it, that's what he'll say: "You know that's just my way, it's what I am like." So there is no malice there - I simply have to think about what I tell him so I don't put myself in that situation.

On the other hand, I do have friends who will take my side. I could name various people on this forum, for instance. So there doesn't have to be love involved, friendship can be sufficient.


I guess I just expected the man who lives me.. To not only see to see the depression and want to act on my behalf. Though, maybe it is a fantasy I have because it never happened after I was raped.. And I looking for ways for it to happen now? I don't know.. I just feeling hurt right now for some reason.
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