Earlier you said you just want a loving relationship rather than doing porn. Could you join an online dating site and specify that you have "limited experience", and see what kind of responses you get? Don't focus on your lack of experience during the date though, and there's no requirement to divulge that you're really a virgin. Some women may not care for various reasons, they're too self-absorbed or have low self-esteem, they think you're really attractive to the point they don't care about anything else, they're just happy to finally meet someone without an STD, etc. Don't worry about being clumsy during the foreplay. Some women just won't care and may actually find it adorable. That's just the way it is. Hey, if a neurotic guy like Woody Allen can do it, just about anyone can.