Your many responses encouraged me to dig into the chapters on children who repetitively abused other children. Not a fun section, and one I'd skipped before. I skimmed it for her reflective paragraphs.

221/ Speech is premised on giving up the promise of complete satisfaction, facing into the irrevocable loss involved in having to use language, which can never be entirely understood.

222/ Desire is not for the object, or for a person you can have, keep, possess, someone who will understand your completely. ... Desire is for something always out of reach, but you live for it.

255/ [A client's envy of a foster sibling who receives the foster mother's love is] what Augustine called "the invidia"—a moment when we're captured by an illusion.

256/ We create a world in what Lacan calls the Imaginary, a world of images and imagoes (ideas about images), to survive.

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