Hi DSM, I am sitting here with 3 days of scrubble on my face without a bit of guilt. I will shave for work. A Quattro seems to be easy on my face or an electric shaver.

If I read the piece on the makeover, I would have deleted it as spam right away. You $17 dollar haircut did not change your lack of concern with appearances or habits of neglect. Why think throwing more money at it will help.

I doubt if any of the claims of the NY fast talking scam artist will come true. But one thing is for sure it will cost you a couple grand at least, maybe 10-20.

If you have not detected my extreme disdain for the makeover idea, I will say it now. I don't like the makeover.

I have an idea that will cost you nothing up front and could change your outlook on life. But...there is always a but...to change you really have to want to change.

I would find the things you are willing to work on yourself and do them. I can give you a list of what I do. But that may not be you. It may close the door to your open mind. PM me if you want to discuss my daily routine.

I think you are a really lucky person. Your wife sounds like she is trying to let you be who you are without complaining.

If it were me, I would forget about the fireworks and just have a quiet dinner together and snuggle together and be with each other. Give up the idea you are going to be a teenager again. Just appreciate how lucky you are to have someone nearby that loves you.

And it does not cost you 10,000 dollars. If that $17 dollar haircut did not make you happy for more than a few hours, how many hours do you think you will feel good about spending $10,000 on yourself. And the guilt you will feel if you are the same person you were as a teenager when you cried over $17 haircut.

How about buying your wife a weekend get away? You two just spend time together. Or buy her something she has always wanted (under $500) and don't spend the mortgage money.

Sorry, but I will never listen to snake oil sales people.