Actually, they really can't do ECT against your will, not in most places in the United States. And generally, once you have started the treatments, you are able to go home after the first few and do the rest outpatient. Yes, memory loss is a problem, but for most people it is short term and recovers nicely once treatments have stopped. No, there is no guarantee you won't have more problems than that. You have to decide what risks you are willing to accept.