Whenever I see the words "attachment style" I want to reach for a blunt instrument to bludgeon myself. I wonder why that model pushes my buttons so badly. I mean, it seems like such a simple thing to say "That doesn't apply to me, so I don't need to bother with it".

I guess it is the way that its proponents sometimes seem to argue that it is a model that does apply to everybody in the same way (that is, everybody fits neatly into one of the four boxes, and each box is unambiguously "good" or bad").

But again, it doesn't apply to my life, so why can't I just ignore it and allow those people it does apply to discuss it among themselves?