I have been labeled dismissive/avoidant by the therapist, but I do not think my life would be better if I was not. I think that part rocks. And the therapist has failed/refused to explain how changing that would help with the reason I hired her in the first place. Without that information I have no reason to change something that does not bother me nor that I see any benefit for me in changing.

Of course, the woman has said a couple of times that the fact my life mostly works well for me creates a bit of a hurdle for therapy as I am not desperate enough to buckle under to her whims.
Okay that very last part of the last sentence is my interpretation of what she said.