Dear evil,

Good for you to recognize this problem!!! I am an alcoholic who has been sober for 3 years.

What you are describing is binge drinking. Many people come into AA and question whether or not they are really and alcoholic.

Some of the things that people say are:

'Can you have just one drink?'
'When you drink is the intention to get drunk?'
'Can you go to a social situation where drinking is occuring and not drink?'

Most importantly:

'Do YOU feel your drinking is an issue'?

If yes, then you have a problem. In addition if you google an AA website they will have a list of questions that they offer for you to answer that asks "Are you an alcoholic?" There are 20 questions and then it says what they think based on how many questions you answered.

-Tranquility