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Old Feb 16, 2015, 12:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Restin View Post
She probably will, and probably still has notes in a file she can bring up on you. But my cowardly policy with any T that I care about is to not even ask any question that the answer might hurt my feelings. In other words, don't even get close to any boundary, and it can't zap you. not recommending this, just saying it.
I generally am super-weary of boundaries, but Im also really hoping I can get some answers. I doubt she will still have notes on me, but hopefully she'll remember something helpful. If not, then I will try to keep my train of negative thoughts from running away with me. She definitely was one of the most meaningful therapists for me, so I know I have way more invested in this than just finding out if I spoke to her about certain abuse situations. I just have to keep reminding myself the relationship didn't hold the same impact for her...

The therapy relationship can be so screwy sometimes. If we let them, they hold a huge space in our lives (for better or worse), yet we barely make a blip on their radar in the long run - just another client. Even if they "cared" for us, it was nowhere near the magnitude we may feel reciprocally...

Now I wait. Not only did I call on a long weekend, but I'm assuming she'll be quite busy anyway (looks like she is the only trauma/s.a. therapist there, and looks like she is one of the supervisors too). I will try to wait patiently, though that's not my strong suit when it comes to this stuff...