Its hard. On one hand we want T to make us go, to take all the responsibilty. I know my T said when after the first yr of once wklys and we were ready for twice wkly deep work to begin, she did say that she cannot keep me in therapy, can only suggest whether she feels its to early for me too leave the rest is up to me, but she needed a commitement from me that if we begin the deep work I need to keep my end of the relationship and turn up.